Love is essentially self-communicative

“Love has to spring spontaneously from within. It is in no way amenable to any form of inner or outer force. 

Love and coercion can never go together. Love can never be forced on anyone. 

It can be awakened in a person through love itself. Love is essentially self-communicative; those who do not have it catch it from those who have it. 

Those who receive love from others cannot be its recipients without giving a response which, in itself, is the nature of love. 

True love is unconquerable and irresistible. It goes on gathering power and spreading itself until eventually it transforms everyone it touches.”

~Meher Baba, from “A New Humanity”

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If you think the games you have going are what lead to what it is you're seeking in life, forget it. What is required to go on this trip...you have to have experienced despair.
- Ram Dass, Here and Now Podcast Ep. 8